Ask Us Anything! | How can I stop comparing myself to others?

We're kicking off the holiday season with an Ask Us Anything series. In addition to curating content and picks that resonate with our community, we're formally inviting working parents to submit questions and present personal issues that get in the way of the life they want for themselves and their growing families. To honor our mission and values, the questions will run the gamut.

During the holidays, I often compare myself to other parents who seem to have it all together in terms of family photos, celebrations, etc. This is overwhelming for me. How can I get out of the rut of comparing myself to others and holding such a high bar for myself? — Nora W.

You are not alone. I admit, there are times when I fall into the comparison trap, too! What I have noticed over the years, is that it is a signal to me that something else is going on. Is it stress, anxiety, exhaustion? (Or possibly all three.) So, how do you nip it in the bud? Step one is slowing down and naming how you are feeling. It may take you a few deep breaths to slow your brain down so you can take step two, which is shifting the focus back to what YOU want. By putting your attention on what you want, you have greater control over making it happen and measuring success based on your definition. Here are a few questions to get you started: What holiday celebrations will be meaningful and memorable for your family? What experience do you want to create? What is a successful holiday for you?

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